They are always right and never wrong.  It’s always someone else’s fault.  If they didn’t have to put up with these kids, housework, lazy husband, etc. they wouldn’t have to drink.  I listen to dozens of different scenarios why women need to drink.  It’s generally to relax and unwind and is never a problem, except to everyone around them.

“She, who must be obeyed” is often the functional alcoholic who is the matriarch of those words: “do as I say, not as I do!”

The drive for power plays an integral role in their lives.  Often, this “power drive” is subliminal and they portray the “poor little misunderstood housewife” to enlist empathy, sympathy and regain their control over other people in their family or circle of friends. Emotional blackmail is not foreign to them.

The alcoholic becomes obsessed with power, either directly or in a subliminal way. They become hooked on their need to control and be right. They can become addicted to objects, situations or substances that make them feel powerful and lose sight of the more important goal of channeling their energies into something less destructive.

Not all female alcoholics are control freaks. We have the “functional alcoholic” who appears perfectly normal in public.  I call them “house devils – street angels.”

People who search for pleasure, satisfaction and reward have their counterpart and share addictive behaviors with those individuals who seek to acquire and accumulate power for power’s sake. Power-centered people become seduced by the sensation of power and come to see power as a source of comfort and security.

Stress is their point of view about the way the world ought to be versus the way it actually is and the gap between those two thoughts is their stress.  Good excuse going on drinking binges because they “lost” the argument, job, road rage, and badly behaved children – nothing to do with their inability to parent in a constructive way.

When we use the word “world” we mean other people, places, things and situations.  The power-centered alcoholic has to have their own way – all the time.  They will portray being a “people pleaser” but deep down, they are very controlling and will use emotional blackmail to get their own way.  They start to believe their own lies.

If you know someone who is this type of personality and uses alcohol to soothe their stress levels, refer them for intervention before they end up lonely old ladies with the look of someone who has been on a lifetime diet of bitter lemon and prune juice.

There are many resources available to the alcoholic to help him or her achieve a successful sobriety. We have seen many ladies over the years that are still sober today. How do we know?  They keep in touch with us on a regular basis. They have adhered to the program they were first introduced to when they commenced treatment.

They also take their supplements, including Tyrosine Mood Food and L-Glutamine, to help balance their brain chemistry.

L-Glutamine supports efficient brain function and is the body’s most potent antioxidant and detoxifier. You can find glutamine in my Ultimate Gut Health.

Tyrosine Mood Food is necessary for the manufacture of dopamine and noradrenaline, which are required for concentration, alertness, memory and a happy, stable mood. We also recommend
Magnesium Ultra Potent to help them reduce stress and assist with a deep and restful sleep without having to use drugs or alcohol.

LivaTone Plus supports phase 1 and phase 2 detoxification pathways, ensuring optimum detoxification of many toxic substances and also supports liver function and metabolism.

Blues Free is designed to support a better mood. Hydroxytryptophan is needed by the brain to make Serotonin which is the natural happy chemical produced by brain cells and has a controlling effect upon mood and feelings, appetite, sleep, confidence and mental energy.

Sleep Eze is another useful sleep enhancer and I use it myself.  Melatonin is best taken at night when the pineal gland is meant to secrete its own melatonin to promote a natural restful sleep and awake refreshed in the morning without that “sleeping tablet hangover”.   It is very beneficial because it is not addictive.

Everyday Stress Lozenges. These Everyday Stress Lozenges contain all natural passion flower petals to help you relax under pressure. A natural herb with relaxing and calming effects upon the nervous system, to help you perform under pressure without slowing you down.

Adrenal Plus Support  If you support the function of your adrenal glands, you have more chance coping with the everyday pressures of life. Many people suffer with morning fatigue and depression due to sluggish function of the adrenal glands. The adrenal glands are 2 small glands that are situated just above the kidneys and when they are working efficiently, they produce extra surges of energizing hormones such as cortisol, adrenalin and DHEA to help you face the challenges of the new day. In other words, the adrenal gland hormones increase your resistance to stress and provide the drive and energy to succeed.

 

The above statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and are not intended to diagnose, treat or cure any disease.